Brokenness & Hope: A Response To Jen Hatmaker

I don’t know if you’ve heard yet, but Jen Hatmaker, a well-know Christian author and speaker, made a shocking announcement last week.

Brokenness & Hope: A Response to Jen Hatmaker

During an interview about politics and hot-button issues, Jen announced her open support for homosexuality and same-sex marriages.  She even went so far as to call this relationship “holy.”

I don’t know how you are feeling about all of this, but I am crushed.  Crushed that another author and speaker, whom I trusted to teach me Biblical truth, has gone to the wayside.

I feel betrayed, let down, and even abandoned.

I also feel broken.

Broken that I (and the Christian community) have just lost a great voice of truth in our lives.  By Jen’s choice to support something God never designed, she just forfeited her right to be this voice of truth in our lives.

It might be easy to think, “It’s just one issue. She still speaks truth with everything else.”  But this is dangerous thinking. Homosexuality and same-sex marriage is not “just one issue.”  It is much, much more than that.

Our beliefs about sexuality affect everything.  They affect our view of God, our view of self, and our view of marriage. They affect how we follow Jesus, how our marriages reflect the Gospel to those around us, and even the roles and responses we are called to have in this God-ordained relationship.

And anything that affects our view of God, self, and our marriage is certainly going to affect our family life, our parenting, and our children.

No, this is no small thing that Jen Hatmaker just announced.  It is a crushing thing.

I am also broken for those who struggle with homosexuality and same-sex attraction.  I am sad that such an influential voice is now telling these individuals something that is not true.  Participating in homosexuality or same-sex marriages will not fill the void and ache they feel in their lives.

It is like what God says in Jeremiah 2:13, “My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.”

Homosexuality will never fill their longings.  It’s just a broken cistern.

Only God’s Truth can make broken men and woman whole. Only the Gospel can fill the voids we feel in our lives.  And I do mean “we”.  If it’s not homosexuality, it’s something else.  We all struggle with something. We all need Jesus.

And this is where hope comes in…

For sure, I feel broken over Jen Hatmaker’s announcement (and it’s going to take time to process this).  But I also feel hopeful.

Hopeful for what God is going to do.  

We may have lost one voice who stood for Biblical Truth, but there are many more. Here are a few “big” ones…

Authentic Intimacy – This is an organization that focuses on teaching others about Biblical sexuality.  Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow write books, host webinars, and even offer seminars about Biblical sexuality and what that looks like in our marriages.

I personally know Dr. Slattery and know she studies hard to make sure she speaks truth.  Two of her books are: 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, And Intimacy and Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? (This is a bible study on sex for women. How cool is that?)

Dr. Slattery has also written two excellent articles responding to Jen Hatmaker and homosexuality.  You can read these articles here and here.

Rosaria Butterfield – Is an English academic who has her own incredible story of wrestling with same-sex attraction, homosexuality, and the healing she’s found in Christ.  Since she is a scholar she tends to write like one, but if you can stick with her, her insights are invaluable.  Her two recent books are: The Secret Thoughts Of An Unlikely Convert and Openness Unhindered: Further Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert on Sexual Identity and Union with Christ.

You can read Rosaria Butterfield’s response to Jen Hatmaker here.

Lysa Terkeurst and Priscilla Shirer are two more voices that you may have heard of.  Both of these women love the Lord and seek to honor Him through their lives and their writings.

Lysa likes to thread Biblical truth through stories while teaching women to handle their emotions and decisions in God-honoring ways. Her newest book is Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely.

Priscilla is the daughter of Tony Evans and writes Bible studies and other spiritual living books to help women in their walks with God.  One of her recent books is Fervent: A Woman’s Battle Plan to Serious, Specific, and Strategic Prayer.

See Sweet Mama, we may not have Jen Hatmaker anymore, but there are still many voices of truth to encourage us.

Don’t forget the “smaller” voices either.  Not that there really is a scale, but these are more of your everyday voices.  These are the voices that will make peanut-butter and jelly sandwiches more than they will ever stand on a stage.

They are namely, you and me.

Most of us will probably never become best-selling authors or host sold-out conferences, but don’t be mistaken – what we do and the voice we are in the lives around us is just as important.

As wives and moms our days are full of ways we can live out truth. Each day is a new opportunity to live out the Gospel.  One day we teach our kids to share, the next we model forgiveness as we talk to their dad.  The important thing is to keep Jesus and His truth in the center of all we say and do.

Just because we aren’t on a stage, doesn’t mean what we do doesn’t make a difference. Sometimes the biggest difference you can make is the difference you make around your dinner table.

The point is, if you’ve confessed your sin and asked Jesus to be your savior, then the truth of God is in you.

And that makes you a powerful truth-teller no matter your stage.

So Sweet Mama, to wrap this post up…

I am broken that we just lost Jen Hatmaker as a truth-teller in our lives.  But I am not going to stay here.  Instead, I am going to be hopeful. Hopeful for what God is going to do and how each of us can step up and be our own truth-tellers in our families.